6/07/2016

A throw away mentality

A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew.  Jesus said to his disciples: ‘You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery.” But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away; it is better for you to lose one of your members than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away; it is better for you to lose one of your members than for your whole body to go into hell. ‘It was also said, “Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.” But I say to you that anyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. This is the Word of the Lord. (Mt 5, 27-32)

At the beginning of Chapter 5 of Matthew’s Gospel, Jesus teaches the crowd and the disciples that came to him. He starts by announcing what we now call The Beatitudes proposing them as sure ways of following him and of receiving God’s blessings. Then he says two very important things that will help us, I hope, to reflect on today’s Gospel selection.

First he tells the people: “You are the salt of the earth; but if salt has lost its taste, how can its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything, but is thrown out and trampled underfoot.”  Thus he tells them what he expects of them. He expects his followers to be able to ‘preserve’ what is good in man and in the human community, and to give ‘taste’ to life. This is what salt is for! That’s why Jesus said to them: “For I tell you, unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven”. Jesus is not preaching generalities. He is asking people to be ‘salt’ where life is tasteless, and to be light where darkness tends to reign. Is this not a job for Christians in our days? In truth, this is our vocation!
Then Jesus assures them: “Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets; I have come not to abolish but to fulfil”.  With these words Jesus is explaining what his vocation is. Jesus, in fact, became man and lived among humans so as to lead them to the fullness of life. Didn’t he say: “I came that they [you/we]may have life, and have it abundantly” (Jn 10, 10).
This brings us to today’s reading in which Jesus speaks about divorce and adultery.
With regard to divorce, Jesus reminds his listeners: “It was said, “Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.” People interpreted this as a permission Moses gave in favour of divorce. It was not! Let us remember Christ’s answer to the question put forward by the Pharisees: “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” Matthew adds a phrase to this question: ”… for any cause”. Jesus asked them: “What did Moses command you?  They said, ‘Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her.”  Jesus asked about a command from Moses, the Pharisees answered “Moses allowed…” Did Moses command or did he allow, that is to say, are the words of Moses a command or are they a permission?
Jesus knew that it was a command and not a permission. That is why he said to them, Because of your hardness of heart he wrote this commandment for you. St. Augustine explains that “the difficulty which Moses is careful to put in the way, shows that he was no good friend to the practice [of divorce] at all”. In fact, he did not give a permission for divorce, he was trying to stop their practice of divorcing ‘for any cause’. Pseudo Chrysostom points out that “Moses therefore suffered a bill of divorcement, not because it was a good practice in itself, but was the prevention of a worse evil” for, he said, if a man was not permitted to divorce his wife, “he was ready either to kill her or ill-treat her”.  “They were indeed Hebrews in race”, he said, “but Egyptians in manners”. Can we apply this to today’s general mentality in which our experience tells us, many are Christians by name but Pagans in manners? Pope Francis frequently reminds us that we are living in a ‘throw-away’ culture, and divorce is part of it. And adultery is!
When commenting on the commandment: "You shall not commit adultery," Saint Augustine asks why is it that a man thinks that he has a right to go to other women in adulterous meetings. He says: “You  shall go nowhere but to your lawful wife. For if you exact this of your wife, you ought to do the same, for the husband ought to go before the wife in virtue. It is a shame for the husband to say that this is impossible. Why not the husband as well as the wife?” This is St. Augustine.
Many would say that in our days it is different. Men and women have equal rights! Well, is that true? Women have more rights now than in the past. Are they not still subject to men’s desires? Are we aware of what they have to face to get a job for which they have the same qualifications as men? Don’t many women face sexual harassment … anywhere, everywhere?
A few days ago Italy was shocked when people heard about a young lady of 22 years who was burnt alive because she wanted to separate from her boy-friend, and he told the police that he did not want her to belong to any other man but him! You may say that it is only one case. Is it? If it is, it is one too much! But, if it is only one case, then why is there a movement in all the country against what is called “femicide” which, according to the World Health Organization, “is generally understood to involve intentional murder of women because they are women, but broader definitions include any killings of women or girls… most cases of femicide are committed by partners or ex-partners, and involve ongoing abuse in the home, threats or intimidation, sexual violence or situations where women have less power or fewer resources than their partner.”
I am not reflecting about divorce and adultery only in their link to marriage or its dissolution. I believe that divorce and adultery in the normal way of our understanding are only a small part of the “throw-away” culture.
When speaking about divorce in Matthew 19, Jesus declared: “what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Mt 19, 5).
Divorce, in the strict sense of the word is not the only separation that humans practice today, and adultery is not the only adulteration that our society practices.
Is not corruption a sort of divorce, an adulteration of honesty and justice?
Is not abortion a sort of divorce and an adulteration of human rights? If God’s Law states: “You shall not murder” and Jesus adds “and if you say, “You fool”, you will be liable to the hell of fire”, what would he say if we affirm that people have a right to kill a child in the womb? And what about our fuss if a man kicks a dog [he shouldn’t] and at the same time call for the right to kill a child?
Is not euthanasia a sort of divorce and adulteration of the right to life? And what would Jesus say to those who advocate euthanasia for children?
I think that these three examples that immediately come to mind are enough to show how broad is our divorce mentality, our culture of adultery. Unfortunately, the list is very long. It is a culture, a widespread mentality! We easily focus on one topic or another, and forget the roots from which they receive their nourishment, and grow.
I think that we should always keep in mind Jesus’ cry: “What God has joined together, let no one separate” (Mt 19, 5). We are not gods!
We should also remember his words: “You are the salt of the earth ... You are the light of the world. ... let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven” (Mt 5, 13-16).
If we lose our ‘saltiness’ and if we hide our ‘light’ what would become of the world? Let us not ‘waste’ our Christian vocation!


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